Separation anxiety is a common issue in dogs, causing stress and unwanted behaviors when they are left alone. If your dog barks excessively, chews furniture, or shows signs of distress when you leave, they may be struggling with separation anxiety.
Fortunately, with patience, training, and the right techniques, you can help your dog feel more comfortable being alone.
What Is Separation Anxiety in Dogs?
Separation anxiety occurs when a dog becomes distressed when their owner leaves. Symptoms can range from mild to severe and may include:
✔ Excessive barking or whining when left alone.
✔ Destructive behavior (chewing furniture, scratching doors).
✔ Pacing or restlessness before or after you leave.
✔ Accidents in the house, even if they are house-trained.
✔ Drooling or excessive panting when alone.
Now, let’s explore how to help your dog feel more relaxed when separated from you.
Step 1: Start with Short Absences
Dogs with separation anxiety panic when they associate your departure with being left alone for long periods.
How to Fix It:
✔ Begin by leaving for just a few minutes and gradually increase the time.
✔ Act calm and neutral when leaving and returning.
✔ Repeat multiple times a day until your dog becomes comfortable.
✔ Over time, they’ll learn that you always come back!
Step 2: Create a Safe and Comfortable Space
Having a designated space where your dog feels safe can help reduce anxiety.
How to Do It:
✔ Use a crate, dog bed, or quiet room with familiar scents.
✔ Provide a blanket with your scent to comfort them.
✔ Leave background noise (soft music, white noise, or a TV).
Step 3: Desensitize Your Dog to Departure Cues
Dogs quickly pick up on signs that you’re leaving (putting on shoes, grabbing keys). If these triggers make them anxious, desensitizing them can help.
How to Fix It:
✔ Pick up your keys or put on your shoes—then don’t leave.
✔ Walk to the door, then sit back down.
✔ Repeat several times a day until these actions no longer cause anxiety.
✔ Once your dog stays calm, start practicing short departures.
Step 4: Reward Independence and Calm Behavior
Many dogs follow their owners everywhere because they feel anxious being alone. Teaching them independence is key.
How to Fix It:
✔ Encourage your dog to stay in another room for short periods.
✔ Reward them for staying calm and not following you.
✔ Gradually increase the time apart.
✔ This helps them learn that being alone is normal and safe.
Step 5: Provide Mental and Physical Stimulation
A tired dog is less likely to feel anxious. Make sure your dog gets enough exercise and mental stimulation.
How to Fix It:
✔ Take them for a long walk before you leave.
✔ Provide puzzle toys or a treat-filled KONG to keep them occupied.
✔ Try interactive feeding to make mealtime more engaging.
✔ Mental stimulation helps keep their mind busy instead of focusing on your absence.
Step 6: Keep Greetings and Goodbyes Low-Key
If you make a big deal out of leaving or coming home, your dog will too.
How to Fix It:
✔ Avoid excited greetings when you return.
✔ Ignore your dog for a few minutes until they are calm.
✔ Say a simple, calm goodbye when leaving (no long, emotional farewells).
✔ This teaches your dog that departures and arrivals are normal.
Step 7: Use Calming Aids if Necessary
Some dogs may benefit from additional calming aids.
✔ Dog-calming pheromone diffusers (Adaptil).
✔ Weighted or anxiety vests (ThunderShirt).
✔ Natural calming supplements (ask your vet before use).
When to Seek Professional Help
If your dog’s separation anxiety is severe, consider:
✔ A certified dog trainer – For behavior modification.
✔ A veterinarian – To rule out medical issues or discuss anxiety medication.
✔ A canine behaviorist – For customized training plans.
Conclusion
Helping your dog overcome separation anxiety takes patience and consistency. By gradually increasing time alone, providing a safe space, and rewarding calm behavior, your dog will learn to feel more comfortable when you’re away.
With time and practice, your dog can enjoy their independence and stay relaxed, even when home alone.